When you cleanse your body you become much more sensitized to other aspects of your life. You will naturally want to organize and cleanse your immediate environment, such as your house or office space. Then, at a certain point, you will be ready to examine your relationships—how you respond to others, whom you choose to spend your time with, what levels of intimacy you seek, whether to engage in interpersonal dramas or sign up for certain social commitments, and so on.
Physical cleansing makes it much easier to identify those relationships that attract a higher caliber of experience and those that do not.
If you have heavily clogged cells, you will tend to be tired, depressed, compromised, dissatisfied, and vulnerable. You will be quick to anger, jealous, defensive, and irrational. If you are a clean-celled individual who has objectively assessed your life-programs and social conditioning and recovered your authenticity, you will tend to be calm, clear, and generally much better equipped to choose good relationships and establish harmony among family, friends and co-workers.
When you bring a clear-flowing body, heart, and mind to a previously difficult relationship, you will find one of two things happen: either the relationship will become much more harmonious because the discord had been lying within you, or you will recognize that the other person is burdened with pain and disharmony. In the latter case, you will have to determine if that relationships is salvageable—if they are willing to make the necessary investment to heal and if you have the patience and forgiveness to wait for the healing to take place—or if it is wiser to allow the relationship to dissolve.
Before you make any major relationship decisions, particularly related to marriage or divorce, I strongly suggest doing a deep tissue cleanse and reviewing the possible social conditionings that may be blocking your authenticity. If both of you in the relationship are willing to approach cleansing on all levels—physical, emotional, and spiritual—as a kind of “couples therapy” (either separate from or in tandem with more traditional therapy), your chances are much better for mutual understanding and conflict resolution.
However, before you start trying to detoxify your relationships, be sure to take a good look at yourself. Typically, once you detoxify your relationship with yourself, you will be able to elevate your other relationships with ease. This is because the hardest part is identifying and then breaking free of the belief systems and social programming that you have absorbed over your lifetime in order to reveal your authentic self.
At first it will be hard to discern between your programmed self and your authentic self, but it will become easier as you start to draw the connections between your actions and the programming behind them. Before you let another argument get the better of you or destroy another relationship with anger, take the time to clear yourself of your physical and emotional blocks and see what happens. If you’re brave enough to allow your ego to surrender to the process, you’ll find it to be the most liberating experience—and really quite fun!
Before you fall back into the old patterns of a discordant relationship, find out who you truly are on the inside. When your cells are clean and your body is balanced, you will see the root of your interactions much more clearly and be better able to achieve peace and healing.
Overeating and Relationship Toxicity
Much of the overeating and junk food consumption I see in my clients originates from relationship conflict. When an individual (women in particular) overeats or eats thoughtlessly, it can almost always be traced back to relationship turbulence—unexpressed hurt, a fight with a parent, friend or co-worker, or an old, deep wound from a relationship that was never honestly addressed.
Imagine: Just like on the Internet or in the neurotransmitters in the brain, there are these invisible lines of energy that run between people. If the feelings in the relationship are supportive, harmonious, and life-generating, a healthy and harmonious energy will flow between them through an invisible cord. If the feelings are painful, distrustful, or angry, an unhealthy, erratic energy will flow between them through an invisible cord.
Now, imagine yourself in the middle of a circle of all the people you’ve come into contact with in your life. A current of energy extends between you and each person on that circle. The deeper the relationships, the thicker the cord will be. Some of those cords will transmit harmonious currents of energy, others will transmit neutral currents, and yet others will transmit disturbing currents that threaten to throw you off balance.
The dangerous cords trigger anxiety, and sometimes can be traced to an “energy vampire”—someone who lives off your energy by engaging you in exhausting dramas, emitting past resentments, or even unconsciously soaking in your energy to feed his or her own. Energy vampires will leave you feeling drained, depressed, and sometimes downright sick because they leach your life force.
Remember, everything is energy. Emotions and thoughts move between people in relationships even if the people are not in the same room.
For truly effective, long-term detoxification, you must ultimately detoxify your relationships as well as your body and physical environments. Otherwise, the toxic relationship cords might pull you right back to an emotional state that’s ripe for disordered eating.
How to Dissolve Damaging Relationship Energy Cords
First, you must look honestly at the relationships in your life to see if the energy cords are transmitting useful energy in both directions, or simply weakening one or both parties. In our mainstream culture we are steeped in drama. The media bombards us with television dramas, movie dramas, celebrity dramas, political dramas, news dramas—dramas of every kind. We soak in dramas in our workplaces and in our communities. In fact, so much of the information we take in every day is rooted in human drama. We mimic these dramas in our personal lives in ways that go completely unnoticed by us because they are so common. That is how dramas can override our authenticity and make us reactionary beings—like programmed robots reacting to situations based on what we have learned from others.
Once you know what to look for, it’s easy to identify these types of relationships. They are often characterized by unhealthy competition, jealousy, repressed anger, and socially conditioned expectations—energies that are transmitted through your relationship cord. Cutting these cords and seeking to eliminate thoughtless interaction will drastically reduce overeating and self-sabotage. It is one of the most healing steps you can take in your life.
Imagine yourself surrounded by a powerful violet, white-gold and pink flame and watch the flame expand to burn away every old energy cord with the people in your life. Then imagine yourself reinstating healthy cords with those who are very close to you and with whom you wish to share supportive, life-generating energy. You will never destroy anything useful with this pure three-fold flame.
You may wish to practice this exercise every day for a week to ensure it is done. Next, you must commit yourself to stepping out of any destructive dramas that emerge to create and feed inharmonious energy, much in the same way that you have committed yourself to protecting your cleansed body from re-accumulating waste from unfit foods. As a result, your relationships will glow with new health.
Satisfying Romantic Relationships
One of the major causes of overeating in adult women is their dissatisfaction with their romantic relationships. One of my favorite metaphysical writers and teachers, J.J. Dewey, sheds special light on this issue.
In his book, Molecular Relationships, Dewey explains that because women are polarized as “receivers” (with a natural negative/receptive charge) and men are polarized as “radiators” (with a natural positive/phallic charge), women must choose mates who can “radiate” energy in order to satisfy them. Dewey does not mean that men need to give women material things. Rather, women require their mates to be slightly more consciously evolved than they are so they can receive inspiration and guidance that supports their conscious evolution. Of course, women can and frequently will radiate (give off light/knowledge) for their men as well. But in order for a woman to be truly satisfied in her relationship with her mate, he must be able to send energy to her that can help her grow.
A man, likewise, needs a woman who wishes to receive and grow from what he has to give to her. This does not mean that men have more to offer than women or to establish black-and-white differences between the sexes. Rather, this means that a woman who is highly evolved or highly intelligent needs to find a mate who is slightly more evolved or more intelligent than she is. If she settles for less, she risks dissatisfaction. If you are a single woman, you might ponder this and shift your criterion as you look for a fulfilling partner.
Enjoy removing all that stands between you and your complete freedom. Remember, you are an unlimited being, forever awakening, evolving, and realizing the enormity of your light! What a ride of self-discovery this is!
Your friend on the evolutionary spiral,